There is a scripture in the Bible about nagging. " Better to live in a desert than with a quarrelsome and nagging wife." Proverbs 21:19 The best tip for not having to repeat yourself over and over again is to write a list of things that needs to be done by your husband and put it in a place where he is sure to see it: the fridge, in his car or in his office. You write to do lists for yourself don't you? so you have to inform him if he doesn't want to hear you repeat yourself over and over, then he has to pay attention to his 'honey do' lists. But if these things are not done, you may have to write the list over again. so it might be helpful if you make a copy and keep it for yourself until all tasks are checked off. In addition to making the lists though, you have to pray that he will fulfill his biblical husbandly duties, to love his wife (and take care of her and his family) as Christ loves the church.
Do you do things one way and your husband does them another? My husband is always saying that his way is better. Sometimes it's better and sometimes it's not. Like when the lights are green the way he wants to go home but another day the lights happen to turn red on him. Or he's not doing to dishes your way and you're/I have to leave the room before you bite your tongue off! Or he "entertains" the kids differently than you do.
Here's a suggestion. Use this one little word, it's only five letters long. But it may help stop some arguments or prevent them: MIGHT."Honey, it MIGHT help if you use the rough side of the sponge to get that off." "Honey, it MIGHT be nice to go out on a date this weekend. I'd love to see that new Spiderman movie with you."Wow, that looks great. But it MIGHT look even better if ..."
It MIGHT be that if you and your husband come together in agreement more often rather than being constantly at in turmoil, the car rides, dish washing and kid raising won't be so hard. It's the more peaceful day to day struggles that make a marriage more like TEAMWORK instead of war and makes a family work well.